No inner voice told me I was not loved. I hate it I really do. My ten-year-old and I are watching…, What is a fantasy bond? My parents basically set me up to become a battered wife. Everything we are thinking is based on how everyone else treats us. Search, discover and share your favorite Nobody Loves Me GIFs. I’m in my early 30s and I suffer from extreme social anxiety and I have no friends. Sometimes it’s just the truth of who we are – we simply are truly that ugly, that unattractive, that less-than-100% perfect, that means people, especially men, don’t like us, won’t even give us the time of day, won’t even deign to spit on our shoes, because we’re not even enough to get past that first social hurdle of looks. This is ridiculous, how can u say its not based in reality and then say most people experience it? Other people constantly devalue us and treat us like some kind of undesirable other. emedicine.medscape.com/article/1171558-clinical#b1. Allow me to say this—Your family loves you, I’m sure. You just cant make others care for you and like you or love you unconditionally from heart…you may be most brightest generous charming successful but you cant make others like you…being liked and loved is a gift ,it cant be achieved, It’s not that everyone ignores me (sometimes it feels that way too though) it’s just the fact that I NEVER go out and am stir crazy everyday (I’m home-schooled) it sucks because my parents are such homebodies it’s sickining, even with my sister driving she doesn’t go anywhere ever!! I actually don’t have anyone to talk to that I can just talk to & vent without someone reporting me to someone & telling me I’m sick,, or twisted & throwing it up later on & eventually regret that I told because trust & betrayal ruins it, I feel judged. I could identify with some of the things in this article. I have a cousin who outwardly fights with other family, always putting in her 2 cents, completely treats people like crap yet she’s always invited and I’m not. Her whole entire family and friends hate me. the voice, inner voice, how are we supposed to react when its not just inner. we don’t have a physical relationship. Jesus. This feeling has almost no bearing in reality and no purpose other than to deeply wound us and turn us against ourselves and whatever our goals may be. I give and receive love by thinking and talking deeply about our hearts, spirits, and souls. They are set on destruction! I do have various sensory disabilities so folk just nix even the educational psychologist said I was a social isolate at 8 years old with few friends with a very low sense of belonging & unfortunately this pattern has remained whilst opportunities are not a given. Which is specifically her problem. It’s a handicap when you’re as introverted and damaged as I am. I agree whole heartedly. You can actively try to divert your mind and start to notice how this voice influences your behavior. I’m so very sad and lonely. I feel the exact same way. Sorry for long comment. I too defend myself and I set boundaries.. I’ve been messed around too much not to. Yet I wonder about the price to pay for my present when I feel I’m running out of time as I have had to lead a practical working life of survival that has being void of inclusion voice as it’s participation requires the expression & control stemming from others that I could have been a robot. Thanks for your article on the critical inner voice. Even my family, who I give everything to, seems to not like me. Sometimes when I feel especially lonely I just hide in the library. What the heck is wrong with me? Go to any nursing home and tell me loneliness is a state of mind…please!! It’s prob not everybody and I bet it’s your mom trying to have power over you . Only when they are in need. You are not the opinions of others, even your parents. Now I feel a tug of war.. I enjoy my life, and am no longer hurt by the fact that, I have no friends, can’t keep a girlfriend longer than a year, and my parents don’t like me. Perhaps there is something unacceptable about me but I have given up trying to understand it and that in itself is liberating! This is an amazing perspective . When psychologist Lisa Firestone conducted research using a scale that measured individual’s self-destructive thoughts, she found the most common critical thought people had toward themselves was that they are not like other people. I read this kind of stuff over and over again but knowing it does not make the thoughts change. His explanation to the doctors at the emergency which I being rushed to the emergency room frequently because of some unexplained accidents. There is an older person who told me that they were lonely and that they would miss me when I moved on to other ventures. There are five important steps to overcoming this inner critic. I meanwhile make a marginally bigger effort for other people and when it’s not reciprocated I feel taken advantage of and angry. But I’m a white lesbian who looks like an attractive straight woman. I also had a lot of teachers insult me too and one that made fun of me. She said she hadn’t seen me standing there. I moved to US when I was 17. I always have negative thoughts and visions and always imagine the worse. I’d much rather have someone say they like me at first blush than to say they don’t. I thought i have found someone that would make me feel special, loved. Sarah is right…this sounds like an abusive relationship. Sigh….. Are they just pandering me because they pity me? You should aim to take on the perspective you would have toward a good friend. I feel so lonely it is painful. With Tenor, maker of GIF Keyboard, add popular Nobody Loves Me animated GIFs to your conversations. Yet he is constantly invited to things evidenced by FB photos and I sit home uninvited. Anyone who has not had our experience will try to find some reason that the problem is something in our behaviour. No one I know here understands this I don’t even understand it but every time I am alone with someone I get anxious and feel like anything I say will be wrong and awkward. Look I know you mean well but I’ve yet to experience much positive energy coming in my direction, when I trusted people in the past they took advantage or they let me down, it’s difficult to make friends if people don’t want to. If they happen that way then that’s great, but otherwise nah. And here’s the good news: it works in both negative AND positive ways. Recently our friend finish her nursing degree which is only 2 year program and all of the sudden everybody listens to her advise and completely ignoring me. Obviously I would and have done anything for them. Forty years later. Yeah, that’s good and all, but facts are facts. I have many qualities that many people would appreciate and like.” Don’t listen to the undermining criticisms that come up as you complete this exercise. Is what I said unforgivable? But it ends there. Radzi seems to know how I feel and doesn’t dispute it. You are greater than the problems that come at you to ruin your life. My Parents are dead , my brothers are dead , my partner is dead . By the way some of the best stuff achieved happens when one goes alone whilst the ‘cost’ can be bitter sweet but even in the quiet or loud of deliverance is more of a keeper. I pushed it aside for probably the first time ever and forced myself to read on knowing I was in desperate need of insight and relief. There is nothing in my life that gives me back something. Get educated and get out. I Found out through facebook that 3 friends went out for the day and didn’t invite me even though they know I’m lonely so this has devastated me. Oh hi Fred , I understand , it really sucks hey , really hurts . ALL of you. I love you all so much. Don’t wait for someone to spell it out to you. No one talks to me outside of work or away from social media. There were functions happening & third parties would make me aware of them after the fact, as why I wasn’t there which made me look like I wasn’t interested. This feeling has almost no bearing in reality. These include, but are not limited to, petting an animal, soaking in a hot bath, or simply giving a gift to another. i know i see myself as fat ugly sad pathetic and alone, useless nothing and a absolute f#%$ up I can’t really convey how I feel with a message but if your reading this i’m sorry for making you feel bad. I feel like people tend to seek friendship with other who have a crowd around them. I feel this same way. Im quite shy around people idk so that makes it hard for me to make friends. It’s either the people are too weird or it’s too far away. My heart is broken. I’ve received talking therapy counselling, but to me, that’s all it seems to be. Look forward and if u need any thing im I’m actually twelve and I always feel so left out… nobody talks to me because I’m not interested in FortNite and BrawlStars, or memes or vines or online things that just don’t matter to me, or even who-likes-who and all that oral dung. I never felt liked by him and got caned for things such as forgetting to get my parents to sign my workbook and many more that I seem to have conveniently forgotten now. While I do believe that we can find truly loving worth while people and connections in life it can take a life time and depends on the quality of selection. Me too, I see myself in some of y’all. If I don’t put forth exceeding amounts of effort I won’t have any social interactions at all. Keep doing the things that you enjoy doing. I always go out of my way to be helpful, considerate to others. I don’t know of a way that I can get out of this dilemma but reading the comments on this website has made me realize I’m not the only one that feels worthless at times. Which is ridiculous as she knows nothing about it. I’m only now just starting to realize it after 15 years of failure. My whole life I felt that there was something seriously wrong with me that everybody knew about but know one talks about. When trust has consistently being abused, it is virtually impossible to trust again. Sometimes people can be unkind or jealous but it’s not my fault. Some people secrete less oxytocin than others, so they do not feel so much of a bond with another. I really mean it, I don’t have family or relatives. Nobody loves me, nobody cares! So do we need them ya nobody’s perfect but just a little trust would be nice or help here or there. When you feel like you never do anything right. Your real self will become stronger, more vibrant, better known, understood and accessible to the world around you. You haven’t done anything to intentionally hurt anyone. "You definitely have to make the time to keep sharing about who you are now...", 5 secrets of people with lifelong friends. Jeanene, I will invite someone to go to coffee and take their contact details and then am ghosted. Realistically I no longer force myself on them as I can tell they do not like me. I finally put an end to the games by walking away, but it left a sort of hole in me. Sexually molested as a young girl, Emotionally and physically abused also. But I didn’t expect that I would not see this coming. Don’t have kids whatever you do, they will use them to hurt u however they can. I actually don’t have anyone to talk to that I can just talk to & vent without someone reporting me to someone & telling me I’m sick,, or twisted & throwing it up later on & eventually regret that I told because trust & betrayal ruins it, I feel judged. Respectful but distant unless someone *really* clicks. If that is the case, you can learn. As an exercise, write down your critical inner voices as “I” statements, i.e. That and being deep means we crave, intimate and meaningful relationships. I am very introverted now and don’t like to be around crowds of people. i never meant to be so ugly. It hurts me to my bones that the amount of schooling I did (8 years), passing very hard board exam that only 60% pass and still I have zero respect or recognition. It certainly does feel like I live in a vacuum except for when I’m at work. God created you , for a great purpose. At work people will talk about going to happy hour right in front of me and never invite me! It’s being willing to accept that one has an ugly nose or an ugly butt and that will (probably) mean that the good looker across the street will never be attracted us. After reading this article, I’m beginning to understand certain things about my life. Or give them my contact info and I never hear back even though it seemed we made a real ‘friend’ connection. There have been several times when I felt I had a close friend only to have them loose interest completely and i never understand why. I see people physically abused and mentally abused when their minds can find a solution to even the cure to cancer. I help out in group works, help people when they ask me to, smile and be polite, but I don’t understand how these qualities aren’t enough to gain me a friend. Sometimes I feel I was meant to be born on another planet in another galaxy, where I fit in perfectly and other people “get me” and like me. The fact that I am good to people and even people know it, and inspite of that nobody cares me l. This hurts me the most. It’s when I expect never to again that I start to blame myself for doing something wrong. No timing is too late for love. But I’m putting that blame on to her and I don’t mean to I love her to pieces but even if we go to her familys it’s like there’s no communication and I’m sat there’s bored out my head I keep constantly getting headaches because I feel like I’m not enough or doing anything Wright. No one has ever had a kind word to say to me. Most of the time I’m invisible or people just ignore me. When I work I have no problem cutting up with people and building relationships. William you are amazing and I bet if you let yourself shine everyone will like you. I’m not sure if I like them, let alone the other way round. I’ve tried to make friends online but people ignore me. Just to be a fly on a wall to see how other people become accepted would be worth all I have. Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. It hurts because nobody wants to feel alone. Why Does Nobody Love Me? If I try, if I don’t try makes no difference. They haven’t called to check on me. If, in this process, you find yourself having thoughts like, “Yeah right. All love comprises the glue that connects one person to another. Nobody loves me, nobody owes me a thing! Why I can’t feel the love from my friends or family. Most people feel like an outcast on some level. I’ve read lots of articles, but most feel kind of preachy. Even my own brother, hugs me when he does see me but we bought a house almost a year ago and he hasnt even seen it yet, even though hes been right up the road. The best GIFs are on GIPHY. You can’t fix others, live YOUR life first. All my extended family are dead apart from a few distant cousins who are strangers. In addition a GOOD B complex…one a day is very important too as the Bs work synergistically. I cry almost every night after any gathering with friends, I’m in a terrible place in my life right now and I feel so lost, I do not know what to do. I love you all so much. The critical inner voice starts to take shape early in our lives. I wish I could see how other people view me because from my point of view, I’m the worst. Empaths: What Does it Mean to Be an Empath? Love is love! God has prepared someone for you and believe me when I say that His timing is always perfect. Trying to change the thoughts just does not work because deep inside you know you are just going through the motions. Even if you can’t remember any special moment… the fact that you opened up and shared your feelings here with others who are hurting, has been a help so we know we’re not alone. To have people say, “your own brother doesn’t even like your stupid a**”? I don’t think I’m a picky person for friends, but just give me somone who is funny and nice THATS ALL I WANT I want to stop playing video games all day and mindless tv I feel like I’m waistjng MY time away and every day I’ll think “when I get a boyfriend life will be exiting” or “when I drive I’ll finally be not so lonley” but when THOSE things happen I’m worried I’ll never be not lonley…. Maybe, “I’m lonely” is just something some people say. John You’ve got some great insight there buddy. However, I can’t tell you my relationships changed. I had to change to finally attract a man who loves me as I am, not criticize and undermine my self-confidence. I felt like I was losing my mind in the last week and had to get help at a medical center and I stayed several days. Thank you for your kinds thought however I am afraid those are not true. Many so-called psychologically healthy individuals are initiating or instigating the hatred towards people who are not as popular as they are. Those who have been blessed with beauty do draw more love. Once that axiom sinks in, it’s a lot easier to get away from the TV and start reprogramming your mind with healthy stuff and dealing with your flaws proactively. All went unanswered. I just find I don’t really care about that anymore. I have back to this blog hundreth of times and still nothing changed…. Google Translate renders agape simply as "love" or "affection," but it's usually used to refer to love between humanity and G-d. "Ludus" is Latin, not Greek, and means "game." I think not being able to meet any guy who would show an interest in my really bothers me a lot. I tried several groups before I found one I liked. In my team no girls ever talk to me, I was very lonely so I quit. 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